Failure & Suffering are Good?

There seems to be a meme spreading among the so-called intellectual elite of America, if Malcolm Gladwell and David Brooks count as the intellectual elite, that suffering and failure are actually beneficial. Now look, I don’t deny that a little bit of pain and a little bit of failure can help, but it seems to me that this is mostly a post-hoc rationalization the elite are using to justify not helping those of us that suffer from poverty on a regular basis. 

There’s a smirk on my face as I write this, but it seems to me that if we’re going to collectively believe as a society that suffering and failure are good for us as individuals then surely it’s our moral duty as those blessed with unnecessary suffering to inflict a little bit of pain, failure, and suffering on those elites cursed to face so little real suffering.